Be in the Present and Try to Let Go of the Past
Your existing problems with your family stem from issues that occurred in the past, but if you want to get over them, you need to stop focusing on them. At Thanksgiving dinner, try your best to remain in the present moment so you can prevent yourself from getting angry or hurt all over again by rehashing the past.
Keep Things Positive and Cordial
It might be really hard to do, but to keep the peace, you need to keep things as positive and cordial as possible. Try not to get into deep discussions with the people you usually disagree with, as you want to prevent arguments and negative feelings. Be polite, stick with lighthearted topics of conversation, and reduce stress during Thanksgiving by focusing on what you are grateful for, including the positive qualities that your family exhibits and the good things that they have done in the past.
Try Relaxation Techniques
Throughout the day or evening that you are going to be spending with your family to celebrate the holiday, practice relaxation techniques, such as deep, controlled breathing. Take a breather by going for a short walk outside to get some fresh air after you have eaten (this could also prevent you from feeling tired after your meal). Visualize yourself getting along with everyone prior to arriving at the gathering, and perhaps even try some mindfulness meditation during the get-together so you can keep your mind calm and at ease.
Take a Natural Anti-Anxiety Remedy
If you experience a lot of anxiety when you have to get together with your family, especially for the holidays, you should consider taking a natural anti-anxiety product or an over-the-counter remedy like Zanaprin that has a combination of ingredients that are proven to work.
There are ways that you can reduce stress during Thanksgiving, but if it really is too much, it is probably best to make plans with those you feel comfortable around. Forcing yourself into an uncomfortable situation won’t help your mental or physical health. But if you can manage to spend at least a little bit of time with family, and if you can focus on interacting with those you get along with most, you might actually enjoy the holiday.